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Accepting the love you deserve

Lori Foster’s Don’t Tempt Me is a story about learning to accept the love you deserve.

Honor has lived most of her life trying her damnedest to need people as little as possible. Her parents abandoned her and the grandfather who lovingly took her in, try as he might, could not fill that void. Honor learned that people eventually leave her, so she has to do without them at all costs.

Jason has a lot of love to give and he is not afraid to take responsibility. He knows what it is like to have others rely on him. With his older brother Hogan and his son Colt coming to live with him after Hogan loses his job, Jason steps up and takes care of them, providing not only a place to stay but a safe outlet for their confused emotions.

Jason is more than capable of loving the people who need him the most, and it is this open and honest love that he offers to Honor.
Honor, not wanting to give in to any of her vulnerabilities, vehemently resists all of Jason’s advances. She eventually accepts him a…

"Jules & James" - Eavesdropping on a couple has never been so much fun

I was listening to a different podcast altogether when I first heard about "Jules & James". The premise is as simple as it is intriguing: following a call to a wrong number, two strangers begin a relationship.

They reveal themselves through conversation and get closer and closer, all the time skirting around labelling their relationship or even meeting in person. It's the perfect setting for an unlikely love story, which is, of course, the best kind.

I have been hooked on the conversation between Jules, a filmmaker living in London, and James, an MBA graduate-turned painter living in Paris, for days now. It's just so... charming. The similarity between listening to their phone calls and eavesdropping on an intimate date between a couple of strangers is clear to me, of course.

And normally I would never normally sit around listening to two people share details of their lives with each other. But they can't see me, so it's okay.

The idea of two people spend…

He is dead, but I still remember what happened.

5 November 2017

When someone dies, do the memories you have of them die with them? Does the effect they had on your life slowly pass away after they have been buried? Do the secrets between the two of you finally stop being a burden on your life?
So far it seems they are not quite, not at all, and maybe if you try hard enough.

I woke up a few weeks ago wondering if maybe I'd remembered the whole thing wrong. He didn't invite me under a blanket. I wasn't about 4 or 5. He didn't actually put his finger into my vagina. I didn't giggle. He didn't ask me if I liked it. He didn't do it again. My uncle wasn't in the room.
I didn't mention in passing to my parents, while they were dressing me, that my cousin had told me "that is for adults" while I indicated my private parts. That didn't happen, My parents didn't tell me not to go into my cousin's room again.
I'm remembering it wrong.
He didn't actually touch me there. Because t…

[Review] When Dimple met Rishi

We are familiar with the loose structure of a romantic comedy: the meet-cute, a “big reveal” that strengthens the connection between the two characters, a moment that changes everything (and increases the momentum of the relationship), the breakdown that very nearly causes the end of the relationship, the Big Romantic Gesture ™ leading to the reunion, and then the happily ever after, or they eventually get it together for a few good years, whichever comes first.
If you have a quirky name for your romcom, or you create characters who deal with issues that are current or – even better – underrepresented, then you get extra points.

Sandhya Menon’s When Dimple met Rishi ticks all the romcom boxes. The play on Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan’s iconic film immediately lets you know two things: the two main characters will be from different worlds and will hate each other; at the end of it all, they will be together and they will be happy. In this way, then, reading Menon’s book is not about seei…

'A Wrinkle In Time' was... a trial

I remember how a few of us gathered around our colleague's Mac to watch the trailer for A Wrinkle In Time.

After hearing that Ava du Vernay was directing Oprah Winfrey, Mindy Kaling and Reese Witherspoon in the upcoming film, I had been very interested. As we waited for the video to load (shoutout to slow internet) we talked excitedly about how quickly we would be going to see it in the cinema in a few months.

The visuals did not disappoint: lots of sweeping shots, everyone seemed to be flying, and there was a sense of wonder permeating the story. I had no idea what the movie would actually be about, but it looked great. Soon after, I made plans to read the source material: Madeleine L'Engle's children's book, also called A Wrinkle In Time. 

It was... difficult. I didn't understand what Madeleine wanted me to get from the story: is it about science? Is it about time travel? Is it about religion? Is this a coming of age story? I also couldn't get the images fro…

Do I have insomnia or is this a really good song?

I think I have an unhealthy sleep cycle.
What I mean is, when I'm stressed I go about my day in a normal way and go to bed when I feel tired, but then I wake up between 02:00 and 03:00 and start scrolling through social media, then the next thing I know over two hours are gone. I close my eyes, but before I can even take a deep breath it's time to get up for work. And the pattern continues for a few days in that week.

It's not sustainable, and I should probably see someone about it. But there is one good thing that comes out of it: I use the time to look at all the tweets and videos that I wasn't able to open on work internet. Not that I don't already use work internet for my own things sometimes.

Anyway. Listening to music on YouTube in the middle of the night like that recently gave me the opportunity to discover a few new songs. New, of course, only to me, because I am not the mixtape and download fiend I used to be two or three years ago. Now, I just sort of li…

I can do this. Surely.

I set my alarm to wake me much earlier than I am used to so that I could a) use the midnight wi-fi and, b) finally write the blog post that I have been putting off. This is not that post. Also, I didn't wake up as early as I thought I would. I'm not sure what I expected: I hate being up when it is dark outside.

Anyway. Here I am, and I don't know where to start. Should I write about my favourite song? About the last book I read? The last movie I watched? I know I've had a list of things I wanted to write since last January, but none of them ever materialised.

I came close to writing again almost three weeks ago, after #Beychella. I wanted to try my hand at one of those minute-by-minute reaction lists that I always like to see on Buzzfeed. I had a pen with me as I watched and I made comprehensive notes. I tried a few days later to write it up for my Tumblr, but stopped before I even got halfway. Now it's too late.
Of course, BeyoncĂ© is always relevant. That's wh…

"Finesse" is A Bop

It is 14:43 on a Monday afternoon, and I have just watched the "Finesse" video for the first time.
I can't believe it's been 12 days since the song exploded onto our timelines, leaving us with fun gifs and a good dose of In Living Color nostalgia.
How have I managed to steer clear of the video for so long, even though it features the inimitable Cardi B? Simple: I try as far as possible to avoid anything involving Bruno Mars.

I don't dislike him. It's just that, between the song he did with B.o.B all those years ago and the recent album 24K Magic , I haven't been sure who exactly he was making music for. I didn't feel I was the target audience. But that's a topic for another day.

This version of "Finesse" is (according to the internet, because it's not like I own the album) a remix of the original on 24K Magic. The video is dripping in 90s nostalgia (the aesthetic du jour), and the song is definitely what we would call "a bop&q…


The February Vogue US cover featuring Serena Williams and her daughter Olympia is just beautiful. 

It is a collector's item, for sure. 
Also going into the memory bank forever is this fun video of Serena dancing to N.E.R.D and Rihanna song, "Lemon":

I love a good impromptu dance break, and the editing in this video is clean and quirky. I approve.