Questions to Think About -some Things to Consider at the Beginning of 2015

What did you do in 2014 that you’d never done before?
I interviewed an author for a newspaper article 

Did anyone close to you get married, give birth or die?
So many engagements and two weddings. My Facebook feed looked like the fridge in the loft on New Girl S4E1 – horrifying. One old friend gave birth. A family member died.

What would you like to have in 2015 that you lacked in 2014?
Confidence and faith, in myself and in the world- so that I can be assured that I am capable of doing and achieving all that I want to, and the world will help me to be great.*
*Same as last year

But also the ability to redefine and stay focused on my goals. I need to actually do more, so I can stop feeling like I’m wasting time and getting nowhere. I’m too old for that now.

What events from 2014 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
March 7th, when I got mugged. I made it to the end of the year, but in the few weeks after that happened I was so confused about life – I couldn’t see it going much further, because I felt I had to re-evaluate everything I thought I knew and believed about life.

What was your biggest achievement of 2014?
My contribution to the UCT newspaper: I finally did some work that put me on the right track to working as a writer.

What was your biggest failure/disappointment?
After a lot of anticipation, finally being a UCT student studying Media was a lot less glamorous than I thought it would be. After so many years of wishing I had done it earlier and thinking about how much better my life would instantly be when I got to Cape Town, the reality was kind of… sobering. What I thought life would be like was inaccurate, because I was working on 4-year-old dreams and I wasn’t factoring in how I had changed as a person.
Also, I didn’t get a job, so I didn’t contribute anything financially like I said I wanted to at the beginning of the year.

What was the best thing you bought?
New skincare products – Garnier Skin Naturals Oil Control Complete Deep Cleansing Lotion and Yardley Oatmeal Mattifying Moisturiser (for oily skin) – that set me on my way to better skin. I used it in conjunction with the Elizabeth Arden Visible Difference Optimizing Skin Serum, which I was sceptical about at first, but I recently got a comment about how my skin looked clear and smooth. So, “yay me!”

I just bought a blue handbag with silver stud detail from The Hub. It’s a sort of cross between a messenger and a satchel, and I love it because it looks great and it will fit in everything I need for a day out – purse, phone, charger, perfume, even a book to read. Just how I like it.

Where did most of your money go?
Airtime and magazines – again. The amount was probably a lot less than last year, though, because I used wi-fi most of the time… So actually I think my biggest expense was food – self-catering living costs a lot more.

What did you get really, really, really excited about?
Loyiso Gola’s State of the Nation Address at the Baxter Theatre
My e-mail interactions with Thando Mgqolozana for the interview - I was actually in contact with a writer whose work I am a fan of! 

What songs will always remind you of 2014?
John Legend – All of Me (weddings will never be the same again)
Nick Jonas – Jealous

Compared to this time last year, are you: a) happier or sadder? b) thinner or fatter? c) richer or poorer?
I’m on my way to being happier, but that has meant I have to think about everything that is keeping me from being happy – so there have been a lot of moments of doubt and confusion… I’m working on it.
Over the holiday a family member said to me “ah…it looks like you’ve filled out even more – no going back now. But I prefer it this way: being thin is not good…” So apparently I’ve gained weight. Sometimes I do feel like I look bigger, but that also depends on what I’m wearing. I have definitely started to make more of an effort to love what I look like – I’m even toying with the idea of a photo series around that theme.
I feel my financial situation is just the same, but it really needs to improve. I can’t go through another year feeling guilty about how much money I take from my parents every month for school and just general life things (but especially school – because I am still doing that studying thing…)

What do you wish you’d done more of?
I wish I had made more friends. I kept to myself a lot, and while that is a part of my personality, isolating myself so deliberately in a new city was definitely not a good idea.

How will you spend the festive season?
Same old, same old. *yawn*

What was your love life like?
Not applicable. Hahahaha So, so, so not applicable.

What are some of your favourite things from this year?
If “things” is memories or moments: the Loyiso Gola show at the Baxter Theatre (and the retweet I got from him after the show)

What was the best book you read?
Like Water for Chocolate by Laura Esquivel

What was your greatest musical discovery?
I became really interested in Kaytranada.

What was your favourite film of this year?
Between Friends

What did you do on your birthday?
I went out for pizza with my family.

What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
If I had stopped living in my past, i.e. living in my mind, instead of living in the world...

How would you describe your personal fashion concept?
The same – focus on dresses and maxi skirts. I spent a lot of time in my Woolworths jeans.
I want to make better, more sophisticated choices when it comes to underwear.
I should put “dress for the job you want, not the job you want” on my mirror this year. I’m graduating this year – I need to get serious about my image.

What kept you sane?
Blogs and YouTube – I spent almost all my free time on the internet this year.
WhatsApp conversations with my friends from Johannesburg.

Which celebrity/public figure stood out this year?
Mindy Kaling – The Mindy Project just gets better and better, and Mindy herself if just so cool.

What political issue stirred you the most?
I realised that I am not as interested in politics as people expect “the youth” to be. I’ll listen to the news, but don’t ask me to enter into any type of debate.
However, the Israel-Palestine conflict did hold my attention, as did the news around the Marikana inquiry.

Who did you miss?
My friends in Johannesburg – not being able to see them on campus or at the weekend was tough at times.

The most valuable lesson I’ve learnt this year is:
I need to stop living in the past!

Quote a song lyric that summed up your life this year:
"I'm getting old and I need something to rely on..." - Keane, Somewhere Only We Know
- because I am getting older and there are still so many things I need before I can call myself "stable" or even "accomplished". It feels like time is running out...


  1. Reflection. ..Thanks for teaching us how important it is to reflect and re-strategise. Its halfway through the year but I'm going to answer these questions for myself.
    One Love!


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